Sunday, July 12, 2020

Karma - what goes around, comes around

                   Life is a Boomerang, you get what you give (a return gift in this lifetime). 
Be aware of what you give to others, you may not like to get the same bitter gifts you gave to others. 

Well, Karma is an interesting topic and we all know how it works but people are reserved to discuss about it. The very special treatment of Karma is it returns your favour in this lifetime only. If you have helped someone at any point of your lifetime, the almighty will definitely send the best of his helping Angels to help you and vice versa. 
In this write-up, I am finding it difficult to pen words as a third person as I have so much to share here from my personal experience.  I have been always vocal about everything that has happened in my life. Kept things as far as transparent but those ears betrayed me. No, I don't have trust issues. I again trust new poeple and get betrayed again. Karma again!!!

What do you think I have done?  I tried pleasing them on and on but not anymore. I deserve better people in my life. 

I do not blame anyone for it but me. May be it is my bad karma that I have to see and deal with such people around me. From being vocal it means I talk about gender equality and it has nothing to do with a daughter in law only (issued in public interest). I am concern only with gender equality and not only a girl. There are boys I know personally are exposed to exploitation and humiliation etc. 

I tried my best to change people's mentality and their perception to see a woman specially but their upbringing is to be blamed for. My late mother was biased towards her only son (my elder brother). Later in life, she experienced so much that her perception changed towards a Son and a Daughter. We come from such society where girl gets married off immediately she completes her SSC or HSC. My mother pushed us to study and become something in life. There was no discrimination between the children. I feel proud to say that we siblings are the most educated in our entire family which belongs to this generation. In-fact I top the chart and that was only possible because of my family. Though, we were raised with equal love, affection and morals. My Father also realised his elder daughter (my sister) is no less than a boy when she was only 16 years old. She is the pillar of our family. Well, I had an amazing childhood because of my brother and sister. They made sure I get all that they were deprived of. I was privileged enough to wear new clothes on my all birthdays and cut a cake with friends, family etc.  

The above story has nothing to do with Karma topic but it is. My parents found it little difficult to meet up the regular expenses with education and they took financial help from few family friends during our education process. Those who have helped us, are doing so well in life. Some of their children are Doctors, Lawyers, Engineers, Accountants and happily living their life with dignity and self-respect. I see karma playing a great role here. Later, my mother also helped family friends and their families with financial and emotional support too. Believe me it is all karma. My mother passed away peacefully with less pain. I have seen people struggling with so many health issues and still not dying.

Initial times, some people duped my mother with money and further I don't want to talk about. Karma did the work for them. We just prayed for their safe recovery. Karma just comes in any form to you. 

It can be a friend, family member, relative, colleague or just a stranger. So be humble, wise and smart when you deal with people. Even when you lie about someone, you invite karma. You lie to cover up your mistake and blame others. What kind of satisfaction did you get doing such? I guess their ego gets satisfied.  

My personal experience says, do good to others and good will come to you. How much it takes to do good to someone? You say good about someone, someone elsewhere is appreciating you. Simple, isn't it?
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Thursday, July 2, 2020

Beziehung - How to handle relationships

It is quite dangerous to be in a relationship with multiple partners but it takes your life away (read breathe) if you do not handle your relationship with your relatives. They are boon in disguise. They come in various forms like parents, siblings, spouse, partner, in laws, aunts, uncles, sis/bro in laws, co sis and many many more. 

How you should be learning to handle relationships - Do not become too friendly with anyone (not even your immediate relatives, they are most dangerous). They take undue advantage of your weaknesses and make you the culprit. 
How to handle relationships?
1. Do not be too friendly with anybody (especially when you doubt someone)
2. Just be the random person for them, do not be the scapegoat for anybody.
3. Avoid sending them personal messages (oh my god, some of them do not understand your language and interpret it differently)
4. Do not target them on social media in any means. 
5. Have the pleasure of getting blocked by the morons but do not block anybody. 
6. Last but not the least,  accept your mistake and believe in Karma. 


How to set yourself free from them?
1. Ignore them. Initially it will be too difficult to ignore them as you may start getting angry hearing their names or having their presence around you. This is just a phase. Do not increase your blood pressure level. They won't suffer but your health will. Just relax and meditate. 
2. Keep yourselves busy in activities that makes you happy. You never know someday your extra curricular activity will make your insanely famous.
3. Avoid thinking about them.  Ah, that too difficult if they have hurt you and made you but declared you the culprit. Conspiracy! 
Just do not think, think about yourself, your loved ones (but what if that person was your loved one once??? - forgive and forget. Do forgiveness. Ask them for forgiveness of your mistakes by simply closing your eyes and also forgive them for their mistakes). 
4. Now you are really entering the difficult phase of this journey of abandoning by people. So if they abandon you, make new friends or continue with your bunch of friends. After all, its said that friends are more than family. Its proved in my case always be it my mother's funeral or my marriage or anytime I need them. They are just one phone call away!
5. Believe me, nobody things wrong or bad for you. You think about it often and end up losing your own patience. Let then live (leave) too. 

If you have failed in a relationship and do not want that person back in your life, stop thinking about him/her. We all make multiple mistakes and we are all child of God. If you make mistake, say sorry or ask for apology and do not keep any burden for your last day of life. This is the most difficult pain you will have. 

How relationships work? 
Talk talk and talk!
Two people should come together and talk with each other to clear their differences rather than communicating through someone who is having hidden agenda behind your fight. Talk like two mature people and sort out the differences. We often fail to do that due to many emotional reasons and sometimes its is psychological too. Decide if you want to stay in a relationship with that person or move on. It could with your partner, spouse, siblings, in laws, co sis, friends, colleagues and every person who is attached or related to you.

All the best. Do share your experiences with us in our comment section. 

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